Updated: Jul 2
Hello, fellow soul leader,
I know first-hand that finding your purpose and standing up for yourself can be challenging and sometimes overwhelming.
I have faced the journey of uncertainty and experienced every emotion connected to “finding your true self”.
The truth is, once you let go of your self-doubt and the guilt-ridden opinions of those around you, it becomes much easier to take the first steps towards finding your purpose and seeing real change in your life.
So if you are new to this journey or have been here before (I stopped, cried and started many times, but that’s another article), here is a stress-free way to start living with purpose and integrity.
What do you really want?
Finding your purpose starts with understanding your values and interests.
Please note that I said YOUR values and interests. Not your “keep my baby safe” Mum, your overly opinionated Sister, bitter Aunty Betty or your sceptical Uncle Dave.
Reflect on what makes you happy, what you are passionate about, and what you value in life.
By doing so, you can begin to align your purpose with your values and interests. Reflect on these questions and make a list of EVERYTHING you dream about, that align with your values and passions.
If you didn’t have to worry about money, time or current responsibilities.
And you didn’t give two hoots about what other people thought about you or your decision.
What is the ONE thing you would love to be doing?
You get to choose what you want to do and you have the power to make a change!
It’s important to create firm boundaries, especially when trying to find and create what matters most to you.
We tend to live our lives through the opinions, experiences and desires of others.
People don’t like change, because what is important to them, is important to them.
Then you start to say no and begin to flourish. This makes others take a look at themselves, and when they don’t like what they see (because they are finding it hard to live how they truly want). They project their feelings of self-worth, in-action and doubts onto you. Selfish of them, huh?
You were put on this planet with a voice and you should use it.
You were put on this planet to live a fulfilling life.
What is important to you, should be prioritised.
Don’t compromise your integrity or let people take advantage of you.
Seek support from others
Finding your purpose and finally sticking up for yourself can be a challenging and overwhelming process.
Seek support from others who can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability.
Try finding a mentor, a coach, a friend or family member to talk to.
Stay away from bitter Aunty Betty and sceptical Uncle Dave!
Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who believe in you.
BUT, always follow your gut instinct!
Take small first steps
Taking the first steps towards finding your purpose can feel intimidating at first, but it's essential for personal growth and fulfilment.
Don’t feel like you don’t have to have all the answers right now, you just have to make a start.
That’s how you start anything in life.
One step at a time.
Commit to a regular day and time each week to take action, and do one thing to move you closer to achieving what you want.
If you committed 1 hour per week (or whatever suits YOUR schedule) to make your dream a reality, imagine where you will be in 3 or 6 months.
You’ll be surprised to see what your life will look like a year from now.
Remember, the thought of what MIGHT happen is always going to feel worse than what is GOING to happen.
But facing, head-on what is holding you back from being your most magnificent self, is the only way to get you moving forward.
Your purpose is unique to YOU, and it is never too late to start.
Enjoy the process and celebrate your successes along the way.
What will you choose to do?
Over to you